How to get started with BDSM? 5 practices to help you
What does BDSM mean?
B: Bondage
Bondage Is a sadomasochistic practice that involves binding your partner in an erotic or sexual relationship. Many people practiced slavery without knowing it. If you and your partner have ever tied your hands during sex, you should know that you have more or less practiced bondage.
Bondage can be declined in several ways in BDSM: either in a hard way, that is to say we take out the latex suits and other things or in a softer way until we make the thing aesthetic by tying ourselves up meticulously, carefully and using a particular technique. The way of tying is therefore considered and is inspired by marine knots with the aim of sublimating the body; thus we bond sensually. Bondage can therefore be done in a fun way to spice up your sex life.D: Discipline – Domination
During domination there is a contract between a submissive and his master. A submissive or dominated is a consenting slave who plays the role of docile, obedient and passive recipient in front of the master or mistress. Extreme trust must reign between the master and his submissive. This trust is characterized above all by respect for the pre-established contract so that everyone benefits.S: Submission - Sado
Submission is a way of abandoning oneself to the desires of another, one forgets one's own will in order to be freed from all constraints and to enjoy this abandonment. But the pleasure is not personal since we share it with its “master”. There are two main types of submission:Chastity : That is to say the deprivation of sexual pleasure decided by the master, whether by punishment, by play or for the pleasure of controlling the enjoyment of his submissive.
Sexual slavery : This consists of complying with all demands of a sexual nature ordered by the master without the possibility of refusing (as long as it remains within the limits established by the contract).
M: Masochism
Masochism is sexual behavior in which a person needs to feel pain in order to achieve orgasm. Practicing sadomasochism allows you to release tension and satisfy sexual urges. This will increase the intensity of emotions and sensations.Why practice BDSM?
It is proven that people who practice BDSM are less neurotic than people who have a normal sex life. The pain of sadomasochism becomes pleasure when the endorphin charge covers the pain, creating a euphoric effect. Most people who discover it are still looking for this pleasure. In addition, BDSM within a couple is a way to become extremely tolerant and subsequently to grant a lot of freedom to the other. It's about granting each other fantasies reciprocally in a relationship of trust.5 BDSM practices for beginners
Bondage
The goal of bondage is to tie the other person up in order to do what you want to them without him or her being able to struggle. It can be very beautiful and very exciting if handled well. BDSM objects for bondage do not necessarily have to be big, rough ropes, especially when it comes to being a beginner in BDSM. So you can use a tie, scarf, handcuffs, bondage bar, etc. The submissive must let himself be done while the master tries to drive his slave crazy with excitement with caresses and gestures. Not only the hands but also the ankles can be tied to increase the slave's submission. Bondage is exciting because the person doing the dominant gets a lot of excitement from being in a position of authority and the one being tied up finds their pleasure skyrocketing. The roles can also be reversed.Spanking
Spanking is arguably one of the most used practices in vanilla sex or BDSM. It is also a classic in the world of sadomasochism. It's an erotic way to awaken the senses. Spanking can be used as foreplay during various role-playing games to which an accessory can be added such as a whip from the Fifty Shades of Gray collection. The incredible Soft Whip is perfect for this kind of practice. The more spontaneously the spanking occurs during the act, the more exciting it is. Often, it is only one of the two partners who is spanked. Spanking is exciting because it is a form of punishment for being naughty.
The punishment
Punishment is an erotic role play very present in BDSM. Reprimanding the other person for doing something wrong and subjecting them to punishment can increase arousal. This erotic punishment can be linked to a spanking or to the obligation to submit to sexual positions or even to sexual practices that the dominant has chosen. This will allow us to release our unspoken fantasies by surrendering completely to the other. There is intense interest, since playing the role of the bad girl or bad boy who receives punishment can lead to unpredictable scenarios.Orgasm deprivation
Orgasm deprivation results in provoking intense desire in another without giving them the right to achieve ultimate pleasure. The idea is to push him as close as possible to the limit of orgasm without giving him permission to go to the end of this orgasm. The result ? Sexual frustration: it's very exciting.
Particularly because it is usually men who are the victims. It is therefore a great revenge to use immediately in your sexual practices. To ensure that the victim is unable to satisfy herself, you can put a chastity belt on her. Reaching the orgasmic limit causes the same release of hormones as when orgasm is achieved. So the excitement at its peak can last for a while since there is no ejaculation.Spontaneous excitement
Some more daring practices for those who are not afraid: BDSM games can also continue or start in public places. For example, using vibrating eggs that the submissive can insert into her vagina and that the dominant controls using a wireless controller. She is therefore subject to spontaneous excitement of which only her master has the power.
It's exciting simply because a simple dinner at a restaurant or a trip to the cinema can become terribly exciting. Moreover, the excitement builds throughout the evening without being able to realize this pleasure. You are sure that in the end you will have a great night. Whether you are a beginner in BDSM or still undecided about starting these practices, we hope that this has convinced you to add these activities to spice up your life as a couple. Who knows? Maybe one day you'll add even more toys to your arsenal.