Beginner's Guide To Anal Sex: How To Get In And What Toys To Use?
This article is intended for informational purposes only and for audiences 18 years of age and older. Obtain consent from your partner before you introduce the following tips.
You've heard from a friend or coworker, or even a coworker, that anal sex is 'special'. Stories of anal sex spread from person to person, fueling discussion and people's curiosity. Therefore, many questions arise on this subject:
- How should we view and initiate anal sex in a relationship, to his or her partner?
- How is it in general, especially for those new to this type of sexual activity ?
- Why should we consider anal sex and the sex toys and lubricants that are best suited for this type of activity?
We will answer these questions as best we can, so sit back comfortably, tighten your butt and let's talk about anal sex.
Before getting into it in depth ...!
Even though celebrity Gwyneth Paltrow talks openly about sodomy on her blog, it's still a pretty sensitive topic. (Yes, it's still taboo.) In fact, before we jump into the topic, we need to understand that vaginal and anal sex aren't quite the same.
Despite some similarities, anal sex is a whole different story. First of all, there is no natural lubricant produced by the anus. Also, the affected area is not necessarily clean and the experience can be painful, or at least uncomfortable if not done properly.
Now that you understand the issue, we can answer the questions asked earlier. Good reading !
Anal sex: a matter of communication and reciprocity
As you can see from the previous paragraph of the article, anal sex is a delicate practice. Not only is the use of the lubricant a must, but we should say that the anus is mainly for waste disposal, not for having sex. Also, if you want to try anal sex, it is very important to talk to your partner first. It seems obvious, but I will not repeat it often enough, as the consent of both parties is required to avoid any unpleasant surprises.
There is no doubt that no one likes to have their anus invaded by an object or a penis when they least expect it. This is why it is so important to have a chat with your sweetheart. In other words, there is no “in the thick of it” when it comes to anal sex. Preparation is the key.
Here are some communication and reciprocity tips to integrate anal sex in your couple or in your relationship:
- Make sure your partner is comfortable, being tense would not help the situation. Your partner should be calm and relaxed. Your partner should stay calm and relaxed. A little massage session and kissing on the lower body are always winning alternatives!
- Before doing the same anal treatment, make sure everything is under control and hassle free. In fact, you can enlarge this hole using one of your fingers. (Don't start with your thumb.) To do this, apply lubricant to the finger that will enter it, and take it slowly. Remember to notify your better half of this action, even if it may seem trivial. Communication above all!
- As things progress and the path to anal sex opens up, continue to stimulate your partner's erogenous zones. And yes, feed the pleasure with pleasure. By sexually stimulating your partner, it would certainly facilitate anal penetration.
- When everything is set, and you have informed your partner of your intention to insert your penis or a toy in their anus, it is time to release the lube. Insertion should be done slowly and you should always listen to your partner. There are many nerve endings in the perianal area, so don't be surprised if your partner appreciates it more than you expect!
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW before you jump in:
- Warning! If you have anal sex with a woman using your penis, one of your fingers or a sex toy, do not insert it into her vagina afterwards. There could be a risk of contamination. To avoid this bacterial risk coming from including fecal matter, wear a condom or latex glove, and change it as needed, during the transition.
- Sex toys also find their place in anal sex, you will see how later. In fact, you will find that such tools could improve the sexual pleasure of your partner and, of course, yours as well.
- When your romance is over, it is always advisable, whether anal or vaginal sex, to go urinating in order to clean the tip of your penis of any potentially contaminating material. Caution is essential!
Why is anal sex worth it?
An article in the Huffington Post claims that more than 44% of men and over 36% of women perform anal sex, according to a survey of Americans aged 15 to 44.
Anal sex is perfect for anyone looking for new sensations or experiences in bed.
Otherwise, it is interesting that the anus, as mentioned earlier, is an area that has a lot of sensory nerves, to the point that its sensitivity is comparable to that of the vagina or even the penis. In fact, anatomically, the rectal wall is located near the clitoris and the G-spot in women and near the prostate in men, which are sensitive and erogenous parts of the body. In other words, if you go "backwards" on your partner, it won't be surprising that they actually like him or her.
What sex toys and lubricants to use during anal sex?
The The dildo! Yes, it is the sex toy that often comes to mind when we think of sex. In fact, as already explained in previous articles (which I strongly encourage you to read, for your information and pleasure), sex toys are actually tools that can make sex life much more interesting. Obviously, we must not lose sight of the fact that we are talking about anal sex, which is why the use of lubricant is essential, if not your lifeline. This is definitely the best match, otherwise you could call it the key to a successful enjoyable anal sex session. When we talk about sex toys for anal sex, you will probably be thinking of the two most popular.
First, of course, there is the anal plug or plug, also known as the anal plug. This little gadget is handy for stimulating your partner's anus. In fact, as the name suggests, it is meant to be inserted into the anus. It turns a lot of men and women on too, more than you realize. Some are longer, some are shorter, it really depends on how deep you want your partner to go. Be sure to clean the cap thoroughly before and after each use to avoid cross-contamination. Glass or silicone butt pulgs are the preferred choice in terms of efficiency and hygiene, as they are made of materials that are easy to maintain.
Second, of course, there is the dildo, in all its forms. Contrary to popular belief, the dildo does not always look like a penis; it can take the shape of a handle to fit more easily into the anus. And for men, if you are worried about anal sex, the dildo is an alternative to anal sex without penile penetration. No feces on your penis, reduced risk of cross-contamination, but most importantly, it's definitely less tiring than wiggling your hips to please your sweetheart, even if you can't enjoy it as much as she does. What would we do without a dildo?
Finally, when using sex toys for anal sex, the use of a lubricant is unquestionable, if we don't mean to literally hurt you. There are three types of lubricants: oil, water and silicone based lubricants. The one I recommend is the silicone based lubricant. Unlike the water-based one, it is thicker and does not dry quickly. And unlike the oil-based one, it doesn't damage the latex condom. In other words, for safe and pleasurable anal sex, go for a silicone-based lubricant. Anal sex toys are a great way to explore anal play.
Now that you are a connoisseur of anal sex remember, all sex, anal in particular, requires some communication and most importantly, pleasure.